In Roman times Dowry is a common tradition, to give some share to the groom’s family so that they could setup a new house. But in Islam there is no place for such wasteful customs that could creat problem for a family. On the contrary In Islamic marriages Mehr is paid to the bride as it is mentioned in th Holy Quran on several places and also in Hadith.
“And give the women ( whom you marry) their dower ( bride’s gift by the groom) happily.”
The condition of Mehr is mentioned on the contract of Muslim marriage. It is the religious fundamental right of the bride which is compulsory for the groom to pay as a religious obligation.According to Arabic trad ions to prepare some one for a journey means “tajheez” and the word “Jahaz” in Urdu is derived from tajheez. Dowry means Jahez. Islam doesn’t give us any concept of dowry or Jahez this tradition is adopted by Muslims from non muslims and regretfully it is being practiced vigorously in Islamic societies.
In those cultures or societies where daughters are not considered equal to sons and have no right to get some thing from parents in inheritance , they try to compensate this by giving them dowry.
It is given in the form of jewellery,cash and costly gifts to the groom’s family. Parents have to arrange all these things and many more in the effort to see their daughter enjoying her life happily and confidently at her husband’s house. Though it is not the garuntee of a happy marriage.
Muslims follow the teachings of Holy Quran and prophet Muhammad ( S.A.W) he arranged his daughter’s marriage in the simplest way. And gifted her the things that were of basic use, the whole expanse was borne by the groom, Hazrat Ali(R.A).
Unfortunately Muslims have forgotten the teachings and are far away from their religion. In many Islamic countries this cruel custom is practiced and overburdened the poor families. Many girls remain unmarried and suffer a lot due to this wasteful act. Parents have to spend beyond their means. That is a painful and bitter reality.