Rights Of Parents

MY DEAR ISLAMIC BROTHERS
IN THE LAWS OF SHARIAH THERE ARE (2) TYPES RIGHTS

 

 

1)- Huqooq-Ullah (Rights of Allah Almighty)
2)- Huqooq-ul-Ibaad (Rights of People)

 

Amongst the rights of people, the most important is the right of Parents.
ITS IMPORTANT has been EMPHASISED BOTH in the HOLY QUR’AN & AHADEETH-e-MUBARKAA.
(Sayings of the Holy Prophet) Peace be Upon him.
In this day and age where mankind has drowned in an OCEAN of SINS!
ONE really BAD SIN we are COMMITTING is IGNORING
THE RIGHTS OF THE PARENTS!
Alhamdo-Lillah madani environment of Dawat-e-Islami which teaches us on all aspects of Islaam, it also tells us about the rights of our parents. Insha-Allah today we will learn about the rights of parents.

I will begin with a Narration from
Hazrat-e-Sayyeduna Abdullah radi allah ho anhu,
in which it is stated that all the companions radi Allaho anhum were sitting in the court of the Holy Prophet
(Peace & blessings be upon him) and a man came and said:

“A young man is taking his last breaths,
he is being requested to recite the
KALIMAH.
“BUT HE IS UNABLE TO DO SO”.
The Holy Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) asked,
DID HE USE TO PERFORM HIS SALAAH?
THE MAN REPLIED “YES”
Then the Holy Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) went to see that young man accompanied by the companion Alayhim Ridwaan.
When our beloved Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) reached the young man.
He (Peace & blessings be upon him) also asked him to recite…
Laa Ilaha Ill…
the young man replied,
I am trying my best but I am unable to do so.
The Holy Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) inquired the reason for this
and SOMBODY replied, Oh Beloved of Allah azzawajal wa Sall Allahu Alihi wa Sallam.
This young man has been disobedient towards his mother
and because of his DISOBEDIANCE his mother is unhappy with him. The holy Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) then inquired if his mother is still alive and the answer was yes.
His MOTHER was called upon.
When she arrived the Holy prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) asked her,
is this young man your son? She replied Yes. The Holy prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) then said,
what if a huge
fire was lit and it was said that we will burn him in that fire,
unless his mother requests us not to,
will you INTERCEDE for him at that OCASSION or NOT?
The mother replied,
“I WILL DEFINATLY INTERCEDE for HIM and NOT let him BURN in that FIRE”
“OH MOTHER”
Said the Holy Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him), make me and Allah Almighty the witness and say,
I’M HAPPY WITH MY SON & I HAVE FORGEN HIM.

The mother did exactly what she was told and said: Oh Allah azzawajal,
I make YOU and YOUR beloved habeeb (Peace & blessings be upon him) witness that I am happy with my son.

Now the Holy Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) asked that young man again to recite the
KALIMA…
La ilaaha illallahu wahdahu laa shareeka lahu wa ashhadu anna Muhammadan abduhu wa rasooluhu …. there is none worthy of worship but Allah. He is alone and He has no partners and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and His Messenger. The young man recited the kalimah and died.
Sallu Alal Habeeb

My Dear Islamic brothers,
This narration
What you just heard is full of many lessons.
A young man who was disobedient to his mother, was unable to recite kalmia-e-Shahadaat at the time of his death, until his mother announced her happiness with him.

This narration is shaking our CONSCIENCE and saying to us, oh you who disobey your parents, be warned,
this DISOBEDIANCE of your parents will cause
Allah Almighty and his beloved Habeeb (Peace & blessings be upon him) to become angry and what will you do, if you die without Imaan due to this disobedience.
May Allah azzawajal give us the ability to always obey our parents. Ameen

My dear Islamic brothers, as mentioned at the beginning that Allah Almighty, through various verses of the Holy Quraan has ordered us to obey our parents, to make them happy, to respect them and never to cause any grief or even hurt their feelings.
Surah Nisaa V. 36, Surah Ibrahim v. 41, Surah Mariyam v.12-14, Surah Ankaboot v.8, Surah Luqmaan v.14, Surah Nooh v.28, and many more verses where we find the Holy Quraan emphasizing the importance of parents rights. I will just mention what is stated in Surah Luqmaan v.14-

Translation from Kanzul Imaan Shareef:

“And We have stressed on man concerning his parents, that give thanks to Me and to your parents.”

Allah azzawajal states that
give thanks to me and to your parents.
Allah azzawajal is stating one of his rights alongside the right of parents.
In the commentary of this verse,
it is stated in Khazaain-ul-Irfaan,
One who prayed his 5 daily prayers (he has thanked Allah) One who prayed for his parents after these 5 daily prayers
(he has thanked his parents).

My dear Islamic brothers,
ALL RELEGIONS of the world that have existed so far,
all of them had ONE THING IN COMMON & that IS to respect your parents.

It is mentioned in Tafseer-e-Naimi, commentary of the Holy Quraan written by Mufti Ahmed Yaar Khaan Naimi
The different reasons of obeying parents.some of them are:

The bounties of Allah Almighty that we are enjoying,
these came into existence for us only after our Birth.
Our parents were the means of our birth.
Therefore, the FIRST LINK between us and the bounties of Allah Almighty is our parents.
CONSEQUENTLY,
AFTER ALLAH ALMIGHTY
WE ARE IN DEBT TO OUR PARENTS.
IF IT WAS NOT FOR THEM,
WE WOULD HAVE NOT EXHISTED.

It is the CHARACTERISTICS OF ALLAH AMIGHTY
that he brings up everybody,
provides sustenance to all, with no return in mind.
There is no greed involved in this provision of sustenance.

SIMILARLY
• PARENTS with the blessing of ALLAH ALMIGHTY,
• bring up their children without any greed or return in mind.

A QUESTION MIGHT COME TO OUR MIND THAT
NO THAT IS NOT TRUE!!!

PARENTS DO HAVE A RETURN IN THEIR MIND,
THAT THEIR CHILD WILL GROW UP AND WILL LOOKAFTER THEM IN OLD AGE.
PERHAPS THAT IS WHY THEY LOOK AFTER THEIR CHILDREN!

“NO MY DEAR ISLAMIC BROTHERS NO”!!!
THIS IS AN EVIL THOUGHT.
First of all how many children we know today who are looking after their parents,
the way their parents cared for them in their childhood?
Secondly, we can only expect this caring behaviour from a normal child?

• How about children who are BORN WITH DISABILITY,
• children who are told they will NEVR BE ABLE TO WALK,
• children who are BORN BLIND and will never be able to see,
• children born with many other DISABLED CONDITIONS that they CANT EVEN MOVE AROUND THEMSELVES,
• OR children who have SEVERE LEARNING DISABLITIES who HAVE OR GOT NO HOPE OF A NORMAL FUTURE.

TEL ME MY DEAR ISLAMIC BROTHERS
DO PARENTS NOT LOOK AFTER THESE DISABLED CHILDREN?
HOW ABOUT THE PROSPECT OF RETURN OR GREED IN HERE.

IN FACT !!!
PARENTS WITH DISABLED CHILDREN LOOK AFTER THEIR DISABLED CHILD WITH MUCH MORE CARE AND AFFECTION THAN A NORMAL CHILD.
SO OUR PARENTS HAVE BROUGHT US UP WITH EXTREME
• TENDER
• LOVE AND
• CARE
WITH NO RETURN OR NO GREED IN THEIR MIND.

THAT IS WHY ALLAH AZZAWAJUL HAS STATED HIS RIGHTS ALONGSIDE THE RIGHT OF PARENTS!!!

AND THIRDLY, just the way ALLAH AZZAWAJUL IS KIND TO HIS DISOBEDIENT PEOPLE
YET HE STILL PROVIDES THEM WITH SUSTENANCE SIMILARLY
PARENTS ARE ALSO KIND TO THEIR DISOBEDIANT CHILDREN.

NUMBER 4, WORSHIPPING ALLAH ALMIGHTY IS COMPULSORY AT ALL TIMES,
SIMILARLY IT IS COMPULSORY TO SERVE&LOOK AFTER YOUR PARENTS AT ALL TIMES
THRUOUGH THEIR:
* SICKNESS& HEALTH
* RICH AND POOR AND
* EVEN AT OLD AGE.

THESE ARE SOME OF THE REASONS WHY ALLAH AZZAWJUL STATES HIS RIGHTS ALONGSIDE THE RIGHTS OF THE PARENTS.

FROM THESE NARRATIONS WE UNDERSTAND
THE IMPORTANCE OF THE RIGHTS OF THE PARENTS.
JUST THE WAY NOBODY CAN CLAIM
THAT I HAVE PERFORMED THE RIGHTS OF WORSHIPPING ALLAH ALMIGHTY,
THE WAY IT IS REQUIRED OF ME, SIMILARLY WE CANNOT CLAIM
THAT WE HAVE LOOKED AFTER OUR PARENTS THE WAY SHARIAH REQUIRES US TO DO.

Imaam-e-AhleSunnat, Ash-Shah Imaam Ahmed Raza Khaan (Alahi rehmatur-rehmaan) states in Fataawa-Razwiyah Shareef:

THAT to deal with your parents with kindness and best of the manners is amongst the greatest of the WAJIBAATS (Obligatory Actions) and one of the best form of worship. Pay careful attention to the word used here, one of the greatest of the WAJIBAATS
IT IS NOT AS IF WE HAVE A CHOICE
No my dear Islamic brothers, if we are not dealing with our parents with kindness, we are missing a Wajib & obligatory Action, thus, committing sinful act. It is stated in a hadeeth of our beloved Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) that to be kind to your parents is better than fighting in the path of Allah Almighty.

Ahlaa-Hazrat rehmatullah alaih has explained it very beautifully
by saying that:
• To be KIND to your parents is one of the GREATEST WORSHIPS,
• but remember, kindness to parents is not just that you refrain from DISOBEYING THEIR DIRECT ORDERS
• BUT RATHER, EVEN WHEN THER IS NO DIRECT ORDER!

• A person should not do any ACTION that UPSETS HIR/HER PARENTS.
• You must be very CAUTIOUS NOT to upset them by doing SOMETHINGS OR ACTIONS THAT MIGHT UPSET THEM.
• WE GOTTA CONCIDER THEIR FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS.

To obey the commands of your parents and to please them, both of these are waajib (obligatory) actions.
And the reverse of it,
to DISOBEY their COMMANDS and to HURT THEIR FEELINGS, both of these are HARAAM ACTIONS.

This is a very beautiful explanation and it has resolved many of the MISCONCEPTIONS that might exist in one’s mind!
regarding the obedience of their parents.
May Allah azzawajal give us the ability to act upon the teachings of Ahlaa Hazrat.

In another Hadeeth, narrated by Hazrat Abdullah bin Umer radi Allah ho Anhu, our beloved Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) has said:

“Pleasure of Allah Almighty is in the pleasure of a father, and displeasing your father is equal to displeasing Allah Almighty”

My dear Islamic brothers this is the saying of our beloved Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) that if a father is happy with his children then Allah Almighty is also happy with them, but if unfortunately, a father is upset with his children because of their disobedience
then this is a cause for Allah Almighty to be displeased with them.

My dear Islamic brothers,
WE ARE GOING THROUGH A VERY TURBULENT TIME PERIOD.
DISOBEDIENCE TOWARDS PARENTS IS AT ITS PEAK.
THE IDEA OF RESPECTING YOUR PARENTS SEEMS LIKE AN ALIEN CONCEPT

There are many reasons for this shift of behaviour and one thing that has A MAJOR ROLE to play in it is ELECTRONIC MEDIA.
THE CONCEPT THAT HAS BEEN MADE AMONGST THE PEOPLE THAT THE CHILDREN NEED TO BE INDEPENDENT OF THEIR PARENTS.

The CHILDREN OF TODAY SPEAK OUT TELLING THEIR PARENTS:

“DADDY”
AM INDEPENDENT
WHATS WRONGE WID DAT
AM GON LEAD MA OWN LIFE
NOT BE IMPRISONED BY YOUR WAY OF THINKING AND LIVING,
FOLLOW YOUR COMMANDS UNDER YOUR ROOF
I GOT MA OWN LIFE WITH WIFE AND CHILDREN
I GOT MY OWN SOCIAL STATUS TO WORRY ABOUT.
ASTAGFIRULLAH!!!
What is all this? What sort of thinking is that? Is that the way a true Muslim thinks of his parents that they are
IMPROSINING HIM IN THEIR OWN IDEOLOGY.
If it was not for your parents, where would you have been? You would not have had this life, you would not have had this beautiful body. Nothing my fellow youth MA BROTHERS IN ISLAM, NOTHING.
NO LIFE WHATSOEVER WITHOUT OUR PARENTS.
It is because of our PARENTS that we came into EXHISTANCE.
Allah almighty chose them as a means of our creation, who are we to lower their status today.
Who are we to tell our parents,
YA’LL NEED TO CHILL OUT!!!
you guys need to chill out.

THIS TYPE OF ATTITUDE IS VERY COMMON IN OUR HOUSES AND THROUGH OUT THE WORLD.

TODAY PARENTS ARE AFRAID TO SPEAK TO THEIR OWN KIDS
WHAT A SHAME!!!
La hola wa la Quwaata Illa Billa hil Aliyil Adheem
IN FACT IT SHOULD BE THE CHILDREN WHO SHOULD BE AFRAID OF UPSETTING THE PARENTS.
IT IS COMPLETELY OPPOSITE TO HOW IT SHOULD BE ACCORDING TO SHARIAH!
But my dear Islamic brothers, PUTTING IT POLITLY
THIS HAS ALL GONE PEAR SHAPED!

A hadeeth is stated in Bukhari and Muslim Shareef in which our beloved Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) has stated:

“should I not inform you of the greatest of the Major sins? Should I not inform you of the most detestable of the major sins?
Should I not inform you of the most hateful of the major sins? The companions Alahi mur-Ridhwaan said yes. The holy Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) said:
“TO DO SHIRK AND CAUSE GRIEF TO YOUR PARENTS”
In another Hadeeth our beloved Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) stated three times:
CURSED IS THE ONE WHO CAUSES GRIEF TO HIS PARENTS. (X 3)

Those Islamic brothers,
GROWN UP NOW
BECOME A BIG MAN,
MAN OF THE WORLD
GOT PLENTY OF WEALTH
BUT RELUCTANT TO SPEND IT ON THEIR PARENTS
OR TO GIVE THE MONEY TO THEM,
WHO ASK THEIR PARENTS QUESTIONS

“WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR ME THAT I SHOULD SHARE MY WEALTH WITH YOU.
MY BROTHERS NEED TO LEARN A LESSON FROM THIS HADEETH:
“You and your wealth belongs to your father”.
When we were young our parents didn’t say to us,
I m not going to look after you because u don’t have money? What gives us the right today to say it to our parents that
I am earning money, u r poor, u go n take your own care.
I have worked hard for it and it is MY RIGHT MY TIME
TO ENJOY A LUXURIOUS LIFE STYLE AND U GUYS GETTING IN MY WAY OF IT.
Al-Amaan wal-Hafeez

Another man presented himself to the court of Holy Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) and said: Oh beloved of Allah azzawajal wa Sall Allahu Alaihi Wa-Sallam my father wishes to take all my wealth from me.

The beloved Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) called for his father and when he came he was asked,
your son is making a complaint that you wish to take his wealth from him. What that father said in response to this: listen to it with great attention my dear Islamic brothers.

The father goes to the Holy Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him), oh beloved of Allah azzawajal ask my son,
what is the reason that I am asking fro his money, his wealth? I spend it on his AUNTI’S, HIS SIBLINGS and his RELATIVES. What else do I do with his money?
While his father was saying all this,

Hazrat Sayyeduna Jibraeel Alay his-Salaam came to our beloved Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) and revealed to him that this father has thought of a poem expressing his feelings about his children.
He has not written them down as YET, THE WORDS ARE STILL IN HIS HEART.
Oh beloved of Allah Azzawajal, REQUEST TO THIS FATHER THAT HE RECITES HIS PEOTRY AND YOU LISTEN TO IT.
The holy Prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) INQUIRED FROM THE FATHER,
HAVE YOU WRITTEN ANY POETRY? RECITE IT TO ME. THE FATHER SAID, NO DOUBT WITH THE MIRACLES OF THE HOLY PROPHET (Peace & blessings be upon him), THE STREGNTH OF OUR IMAAN INCREASES THEN HE STARTED RECITING HIS POETRY.
My dear Islamic brothers, the poetry that he read, LISTEN to the TRANSALATION OF IT WITH EARS OF YOUR HEART
FEEL THE ANGUISH of your parents in these words and KHUDAARA (FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH),
STOP GRIEVING YOUR PARENTS AND STOP DISOBEYING THEM.
THE FATHER SAID: “OH CHILDREN, ESPECIALLY THOSE WHO ARE DISOBEDIENT TO YOUR PARENTS LISTEN TO THE CRIES OF AN OPPRESSES&ANGUISHED FATHER:

Oh my child, I fed you since u were born
I supported you when u were all alone
Through blood and sweat I earned to feed you daily
If any night u fell ill, I sacrificed all my nights’ sleep to comfort you
I used to get scared thinking about your death
My eyes used to shed tears, feeling the pain of your suffering
I brought you up with such love and affection
Now that you have grown up
And I have a hope that you might support me the way I supported you
This is the return I get from you, strict and harsh behavior
It is as if it was your gratitude
You ignored the right of a father
At least you could have just given me the right of a neighbor and treated me with some respect
And the money, which infact belonged to me, you should not have shown stinginess

The holy prophet (Peace & blessings be upon him) after listening to his poem, started crying my dear Islamic brothers. In state of this crying, he (Peace & blessings be upon him) got up, seized the collar of his son and said:
“Go you and your wealth, both belong to your father”

SALLU ALAL HABIIB,,,
:SALLALLAHU ALAHI WASALIM,

My dear sweet Islamic brothers u have heard that HOLY PROPHET SALLALLAHU ALAIHI WASSALLIM after hearing the poem, shed his blessed tears and tell that :you and your wealth belong to your father.
By the verses of holy qur’an and different ahadees we should have realized the value of our parents.
Alhamdulillah hi azzawajel DAWATEISLAMI is teaching us how to respect our parents through various Islamic ways such as
• DARS,
• BAYANNS,
• MADANNI CHANNEL,
• MADANI INAAMATS
• AND MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL
• MADANI QAFILA’S
Alhamdulillah azzawajel whoever adopted madani environment of dawateislam, if before they were disobedient to their parents they became humble and obedient, those who were VIOLENT to their parents are now the ones who KISS there HANDS and FEETS.

So, this is the blessed environment of dawateislami given by A WALI E KAMIL,MY BELOVED SHEIKH E TAREEQAT,AMEER E AHLE SUNNAT HAZRAT E ALLAMA MOULANA MOHAMMAD ILYAS ATTAR QADRI(damat barakatuhum ul aliya)
“Isi mahol ne adna ko ala ker diya dekho,
Andhera tha, ujala hi ujala ker diya dekho.”
Dear Islamic brothers its my HUMBLE REQUEST to ATTATCH YOUR SELF with dawateislami,
Attend weekly ijtima reqularly,
travel in madani qafila every month and if u want to strive urself then please fill ur madani inamat card daily.
May ALLAH give me and all of us tofeeq to be obedient to ALLAH and our parents ameen .